I always liked seeing people’s reaction when I told them I was having twins. They gave me a look mixed with horror and sympathy all at the same time. Some even blurted out “I’m sorry!”
I’m not going to lie, I was pretty scared at the thought, but I don’t think it totally hit me until I literally gave birth to two babies!
I did all the prerequisite reading to prepare as much as I could, I arranged for my mom to fly out and stay for as long as I needed....and then we just hoped for the best!
My babies were born at 37 weeks on May 15, 2015. Their entrance into the world, while somewhat dramatic, was pretty incredible. I just couldn’t believe that in a matter of five minutes I was a mom of two! The first few weeks were eventful and stressful, as we all tried to figure out how to manage two babies at once. Of course my mom had to leave eventually, leaving me to figure it out on my own. The day after my mom left, I cried myself to sleep. On day one of being alone with my babies we had a broken water heater, a bad bought of constipation with my son, and my daughter discovered her "witching hour" where she screamed for three hours for no reason. As I comforted and tried to soothe her, my son finally found his relief, leaving an explosion all over my bed, pillow, sheets, and mattress. Needless to say, his onesie didn't make it either.
That day is the benchmark for my low point. The next day, I took a very cold shower and manned up. I could do this!
My twins are now 15 months old, and I am glad to say that we have made it so far! People always as me how I handle twins, so here are the three points that keep me going:
I try to keep my cool. After that first night alone with them, I realized they sensed my fear and frustration and I wasn't going to let that happen again. My husband and I have made it a point to stay even-tempered most of the time, and I think that has had an impact on their personalities. They are adaptable, happy, and flexible little babies. Maybe this is nature vs. nurture, but either way, I'll take it!
I am social. My husband and I have tried our hardest to maintain a social life as best as we can. Like with a diet, we give ourselves one "cheat" day a week. My kids are on a schedule, but it is hard to make plans around a baby's nap schedule. So we throw caution to the wind once a week, and let our kids skip their second nap so that we can get out and see our friends and do the fun things that keep us all sane.
I don’t know any different. While there have been plenty of times I’ve thought that having one baby instead of two would be so much easier, that’s not my reality. I don’t even know what to do with myself when one baby is awake before the other. I just feel like something is missing until the second baby wakes up. This is my normal, and I honestly wouldn’t want it any other way.
Other twin moms tell me that it gets easier when they are older. They say the kids entertain each other, and having twins is like a built in play date. I don’t think that’s happening for us for a little while, but regardless, I’m just sitting back and trying to savor the moment. Someone referred to this time as the longest, shortest time and I think that’s the perfect way to describe motherhood. It feels like the longest time while you're in the trenches, and then in a blink of an eye that stage is over and you’re on to the next. That’s how I’m feeling right now. I am concentrated on balancing it all, but at the end of the day you just have to let it all go and enjoy the ride.
Vita is a Hoboken resident since April 2015, and mom to 15 month old twins, Megan & Nathan. She works in midtown Manhattan as the Director of Product and Design for Madonna’s fashion line, Material Girl. Vita loves to explore the parks all around Manhattan & Hoboken with her twins. When the twins are both sleeping (yay!) she loves to catch up on episodes of Chopped.